This article contributed by Muchiri Nyaggah 🙂
No idea what ‘baby blues’ are? Here’s Wikipedia to the rescue.
If you’re expecting your first baby, it’s best to be prepared for the blues. They may be as mild as a little moodiness or serious enough to require medication and hospitalization. How deep the depression can get may be impossible to predict but there are ways of ensuring things don’t get too out of hand. Check out this link for more information on post partum depression. Try not to get too anxious from the all the information.
What can YOU do to make it less intense you and mummy?
1. Be Helpful
Yes it does mean getting off the couch and taking the baby off her hands for a little bit. Mummy needs ‘me’ time too. Making room for her to go get her hair and nails done, hang out with the girls or do some shopping can be very therapeutic.
2. Eat Better
Junk food, caffeine and alcohol should not be on your list of foods during the first 6 months after delivery. Avoid putting these into your shopping cart on your next visit to the supermarket or ordering them when you take mummy out to dinner. Encourage her to eat better and let her know you’re in it together.
3. Let Her Talk
And listen! Actively. Low grunts from behind a newspaper don’t quite count as active listening. Creating and protecting the space to talk helps her decompress when she begins to feel overwhelmed. Her timing may not always be great but she needs to know she counts more than the game on TV. This means you also need to talk. Find someone to talk to regularly so that you also get the opportunity to decompress. Remember, even fathers can suffer from baby blues.
Keep in mind that baby blues are triggered by a cocktail of factors ranging from the body’s hormonal changes to social pressure to be a great mom right ‘out of the box’. Daddy can’t fix everything so if it only starts to get worse, seek out psychiatric help immediately.